Entry kali ni lain dari biasa..coz suddenly I feels like I want to write bout this matter.
I always think that there should be borders n boundaries between me and students. I once use FB as a medium to have a social contact with my students. But then I felt very uncomfortable..coz myFB was meant for me to socialize with family and friends and colleagues. But still, not all family and friends and colleagues. :D
I just don't know why I felt such way. It was just uneasy feelings. Ada certain people that we want to avoid, rite? Sama jugak macam bile guna YM. Ada certain people yang I put 'invisible' mode. so that they won't see me whenever I signe in. Please, please, please. I tak 'buang' mereka..I still keeping them. But..I have my own reason, reasons and reasonsss.
So I started cleaning up my friend's list spaces. Did the spring cleaning. Puas hatiku. Then I opened another FB account just for some people that I think this is a formal channel between me and them..and somewhat social la jugakkk.
Some of my students are sebaya with me..and many-many of them much older than me..ada yang 2-3 tahun, 10-15 tahun..
I've got several impressions like,
"eh, kitorang ngan Puan sebaya la."
"lagi muda dari kami la rupanye Puan ni."
Nada bukan friendly, k. So whaddayou expect? I had to respect you as well? I always did that. What's more do u guys want?
But honestly speaking, orang yang jauhhhh lebih tua, bila mereka baru nak sambung degree, mereka lebih menghargai 'orang yang mengajar' regardless umur, rupa, and macam-macam kriteria lain walaupun mereka banyak pengalaman. I dah pernah ngajar cikgu-cikgu yang asal dari diploma, yang dah berbelas tahun mengajar di sekolah. OK je diorang semua. The teaching and learning process was fun as far as I could remember. Last semester, I gave them an assignment where they should organize a group trip to any food processing industry. Being a teacher, diorang ni ada masa time school holidays je untuk pergi buat assignment ni. So there is one group, they planned to go to Cameron Highlands..bawak family bercuti sambil tu diorang gi ladang teh buat assignment on how the tea processing. Bila buat presentation, diorang siap buat macam ala-ala minum petang..bawak heater, masak air dalam kelas. So sambil tengok diorang present, I dapat minum teh panas..:) Wonderful experience la for me sebab I pun baru berapa tahun je mengajar..I pun tengah belajar macammane nak 'mengajar'..Semangat betul mereka. And I was touched by their courage and determination. Means, bila belajar tu be fleksibel la kan. Life long learning process.
Berbanding dengan student yang beza umur dengan kite setakat 2-3 tahun. I just don't know why. This is what happened to me. At least, in my case. Kalau yang muda dari kite tu, toksah banyak bunyik la kan. Memang siapla kene banned kalau bersikap kurang ajar. Mm..to me, kalau budak-budak boleh la I marah ke cakap ikut sedap. Nih kalau budak dah besar-besar..mostly dah pernah amik diploma..mentaliti tu tolong la kembangkan sket.
But I keep this in my mind. Tak semua macam tu. Tidak. Tidak.
Mamat belah kanan tu kebetulan ex-schoolmate husband. Die add I kat FB thru my husband punye akaun la kot. I tatau nak letak die kat yang formal ke social akaun. :P

Antara student paling sengal I pernah ajar. Tapi sangat best. Dah grad dah pun. Macammanelah gayanye korang jadik cikgu kat sekolah..Harap-harapla well-behaved kedua-dua mereka ini. :POhh..for the record, baju kebaya pendek di atas semua dah tak muat. Muahahaha.
For me, keeping borders between me and students were like being PROFESSIONAL. Bukan sombong. Ada tu kadang-kadang I siap tumpangkan student naik kereta time ada ada kelas sampai Maghrib ke..sebab dah tau bas universiti lambat sket time waktu cenggitu. Tapi students ni ada satu macam perangai yang pelik la..I pun tatau nak kate macamane. Not all, several of them. Die baik dengan kite, tapi die respect. Ada juga yang baik dengan kite, but with double meaningssss.
Until yesterday,

Kite bukan nak student junjung kite melangit, at least show some respect la. Dalam kes I ni. Student ni I dah add die dalam my formal FB account. Tapi still nak add I kat akaun N@zira_N@d tu. I buat tak reti jela. Then, kebetulannye die tengah buat Teaching Practice in a school, which I had a friend who already work as a teacher there. Kebetulan, my sis, Ana (her name was mentioned by this *** in the conversation) is a GSTT there. Takpela, I ok je. Kebetulan ada conversation yang a bit related to work stuff, so I pun saje chat there. Sebab ada student kepada kawan I tu tanye, kalau dah buat matriks, boleh ke nak amik kursus perguruan kat Maktab Perguruan. So..bla..bla..bla..until I terbaca ayat dalam red borders tu. Erghhh. Sent my blood upstairs la. How dare. Tak respect langsung.
Ohhh..i hate it so much! Memang patut ada boundary!






17 comments:
nad.aku pon same..tp ni SV aku yg add aku kat FB n evrytime aku nak merungut sal thesis aku..aku kne pendam je sbb tkut SV aku bace..n kalo nak tulis pon kne cam double2 meaning je..huhu terseksa okeh
btw sye still tau name student anda tu..muahahahaha
tau..aku malas nak edit gambar tu..sebab dah upload baru perasan..haha..giler ahh SV ko bleh lak rajen meng add student.. rase mcm tade privacy kan..
nad,
bab kata lecturer sue
in class,you are my student and i lecturer,pls respect me as your lecturer..kat luar kita blh jadi kawan.tapi betul kata awak,kekadang ada yang jenis tak tahu respect nih,susah la kan
sue pun takut nak masuk mengajar tahun depan,takut dpt student yang sebaya ker,ish..ish..sabar yea nad.
tak pe sue..u can do it..tak semua yg macam tu..ade perangai pelik. just kerana kawan kite adalah kawan die, tak bermakna die boleh cakap ape saje. fikir dulu sebelum bercakap, kan. :P
i agree wif u nad..nash tpaksa remove student yg dah add dekat fb n create another ac just for them sebab lama2 rasa cam xde privasi pulak..kite nak bsembang ngan kawan2 pon rs limited sebab derang bole baca..huhuuu
so, my acc yg utk student tu status nye sopan aje...
tp at the same time kite pon ble track conversation die..yg kurang cerdik plak letak gambar pelik2..hmmmm
panjang lak komen neh
haha..nasha..pening kan mase nak buang tu. sebab dah la gune nama pelik2 jugak..tula, bile dah lame2 memang pk i really need my own space. ngan student tak leh exposed semua. macam tak sedap je kan kalau tetibe post kat FB.
HUBBY I LOVE YOUUUU.
pastu student baca. agagaga. tak best langsung.
eh. gambar pelik-pelik ape tu? hehe.
wah..nad ada students yg 10-15 thn lebih tua ek...saya cuma dlm 5-6 thn je la..but most from industries yg sambung degree..fuhh..soal respect mmg jd isu..bila tgk kita yg muda lg dr dia, mcm2 la di bangkang nya kita..klu wat assignment ke ape ke, sume nak try n error..mn la leh mcm tu..bila di tegur, diorg kata in real industries mmg cenggitu..so, what point diorg masuk blaja balik..n u know what, ada je yg panggil nama je kat sy..kita bukan la nak tunjuk arrogant ke hape ke, tp, sebagai seorang yg memberi ilmu, we have to be respect right..huh, dilema..
*pjg lak komen..hihi*
student nad sumer cikgu-cikgu..bakal guru..dulu kan kalau ade diploma dari maktab je dah ngajar kat sekolah..tapi sekarang kalau nak naik gred ngan gaji diorang kene ade degree..tu yang ngajar 'org lama-lama' tu. hehe. tapi most of them memang fun la..kdg2 boleh panggil pakcik je bile kat luar..time nad start keje dulu umur baru 22tahun..tapi diorang tetap panggil Cik nazira walaupun diorang bahasakan diri orang 'akak'..kalau yang pempuan tu nad panggil 'akak' je..sebab tau diorang hormat kite..
rasanye kalau ajar org dr industri beri cabaran gak. lagila kan..pengalaman memang banyak. tapi takleh la nak compare kite ngan diorang.kite line akademik, bukan line industri. things dalam industry keep on changing.tapi sebab mcm tu, sume pensyarah skrg kene gi latihan industri, kan. nad kene gi gak. tpi tataubile. :P
huhuh..takde pengalaman mengajar la dear..tp,nak komen juga..hehehe...laman sosial nie..mmg perlu berhati...apa2 pun boleh jadi hanya kerana status kat FB...:)
hi nad..
my 1st comment here. ngeeee.
based on my xperience as teacher, baru graduate, ajar student form 5..
mmg ada jugak yg dabel standard.
bajet kelas sains depa pandai sgt! and cikgu ni tak tau apa2.
frust la jugak bila kita prepare mcm2 utk kelas skali bila nak wat xtvt 2..depa heran tak heran ja.
ps: erkkkk... mcm besimpang siur sket tp tak kesah kot ada luahan perasaan seminit hahhaaha
kita pon ade 2 acc FB. hehehhe.
for safety.
I pun x der pengalaman mengajar, tapi apa2 pun keja yang penting kena profesional. Macam u lagi la. Nak kena nilai student... :p
mak jgn emo.nti aku tlg babab student ko.soh nawal pon ok.dia cegil mata pon cukup.hehe
hohoho...
itu bukan meri krismas ok...hohoho sbb aku pn dlm situasi yg lebih kurang sm dgn ko...
aku mmg buat border & boundaries dgn bbrp org dlm hidup aku...pertama, kaum kerabat...especially sepuput sepapat...aku sgt2 la x selesa bila family ada dlm fb aku...sgt2 ok...kalo adik2 aku tu xpelah..derang mmg dah kenal aku luar dlm..maklumlah, ms kecik dulu pun mandi sama..ni hah, soal sepupu2 aku, sepupu2 hubby..no no no...xnak derang ada dlm fb aku..sbb aku suka letak mcm2 dlm fb..kdng2, people can know the true me melalui fb...gile pun aku..bengong pun aku...sedangkan bila jupe in real life, i try to behave..bkn aku hipokrit dgn sepupu..it juz, ye lah, nm pun sepupu, mak sedara, nenek sedara kan..kita kne la sopan santun sket..plus, kita x cerita semua benda dgn derang kan...bila derang dpt tau tru fb, boleh jd buah mulut..x suke g2..
satu lg, staf aku...sehhh..ini mmg aku pantang terus...sbb aku bos...bukan nak menyombong..tp staf & bos ada limitation...bg yg reti bahasa xpe...tp yg x reti, bila dia dah tau semua cerita tentang kita, dia dah x hormat kita...kita suruh pun endah x endah...ingt kita bgurau...susah nnti...senang ckp, borak2 setakat klinik je la...xyah nak add di fb...betul x...
jd, aku mmg x accept sedara mara & staf aku dlm fb..kalau tpaksa,sbb derang dah bg msg bkali2, aku akan accept...2,3 minggu aku akan delete..huhu..bukan sombong...it juz, i want to feel comfortable..
Nad...akak setuju u kena adakan juga boundary between u and ur students, sebab mcm krin even jadi cikgu sek rendah, i wont approve any of my pupils if their added me as a friends at FB...mcm Nad mgkin sebab beza umur dekat2..tp krin sebab takmo dorang menyampuk apabila kami2 cikgu cikgu ni berbalas komen dalam status memasing..so dekat situ wujudnya boundary..supaya adanya respek mereka kepada cikgu2...plus poin..students skang tak pandai hormat cikgu, unlike us, nak pandang bertentang mata dengan cikgu pun..SCARY!!
biaserla tu nad..tu la cabaran kita as young, energetic lecturer.aku pun, memang build a firm, big gap between students. setakat nak rapat, nak share problem study or peribadi..memang no problem. but it is within the range of students-lecturer relationship. bukan apa..students nowadays, kadang2 kalau kita bagi ruang, they tends to over react (based on my experience la).but memang tak semua mcm tu, just yg sengal2 tu jer. thats why as precaution, aida memang tak pernah accept friend request diorg kat fb..even how close they are. maybe its not time lagi..tunggu diorg matang sepenuhnya dulu kot. hahaha.
owh i know how u feel dear. sama la cam aku kalo clerk aku ckp camtu. whateverpun mesti ada gap gak lah.
tapi mmg horror la dpt student camtu. kalo aku mesti terus kecik ati on d spot sambil ckp --> hoh! ko pikir ko sape? hehe
hehhe..betul2...tapi cm ko..between ko n student..cm aku nih..between aku n bos...hehe...tp tak sort group pun lagi kat FB tuh..malas betul... so kene berpada-pada je la...
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